PESHAWAR: Advisor to the Chief Minister Khyber Pakhtunkhwa on Information and Public Relations, Barrister Dr. Muhammad Ali Saif, stated that parenting should be seen not only as an art but also as a science that requires a deep understanding of societal and psychological dynamics, aligning with modern challenges to foster meaningful and lasting change.
In his keynote address at the closing ceremony of a workshop titled “The Art of Parenting”, organized by the National Institute of Psychology, Aga Khan Foundation, the National Commission on the Status of Women and other esteemed partners, Barrister Dr Saif highlighted the critical role of parenting in shaping future generations and countering societal challenges, particularly violent extremism, in the context of Khyber Pakhtunkhwa’s evolving social landscape.“Parenting is both a societal and social,” Dr. Saif stated, underscoring the need for a standard of parenting that meets current challenges and equips future generations to contribute meaningfully to society.Barrister Dr. Saif drew a significant connection between parenting and countering violent extremism (CVE), noting that the two are deeply interlinked. He argued that quality parenting can serve as a powerful tool to mitigate extremism by nurturing individuals who are socially conscious and morally grounded.“The link between parenting and CVE is critical, especially in the context of Khyber Pakhtunkhwa, where societal dynamics are rapidly evolving,” he remarked.
Delving into the scientific dimensions of parenting, Barrister Dr. Saif highlighted the importance of a systematic and evidence-based approach. He referenced the transformative period in European societies following World War II, during which traditional values gave way to new ones, prompting a deeper exploration of parenting as a psychological discipline. Pioneers such as Diana Baumrind, Daniel Siegel, and other scholars significantly advanced the field by developing frameworks within psychological discourse. Their work led to the emergence of the concept of perceived parenting, which emphasizes understanding parenting practices through the lens of a child’s perception, shaping modern approaches to child-rearing and personality development. “This scientific discourse is a guiding principle in modern parenting research.” he added.
Barrister Dr. Saif stressed that parenting must adapt to the changing socio-psychological, socio-economic, and socio-political landscapes. He advocated for a scientific approach to understanding the factors driving societal change and preparing the next generation to navigate these transformations. “Without a scientific understanding of these processes and their impacts, we cannot fully realize the benefits of parenting initiatives,” he noted.
Reflecting on the psychological aspects, Dr. Saif outlined various parenting styles, including authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and neglectful parenting. He identified authoritative parenting as the most effective, as it balances freedom and control, fostering regulated growth in children. “This balance is crucial for ensuring children develop into responsible and capable individuals,” he said.
Addressing the challenges of parenting in the modern era, Barrister Dr. Saif emphasized the need to prepare children for emerging global trends, such as the influence of social media and artificial intelligence (AI). He urged parents to empower their children to harness these forces for societal good rather than destruction. “We must raise children who can use the power of AI and social media to reform and rebuild society,” he asserted.Barrister Dr. Saif also drew on cultural and religious perspectives, referencing a saying by Hazrat Ali (RA), “Educate and raise your children according to the demands of their time, not yours, for their era will have different needs.” He connected this wisdom to the need for forward-thinking parenting that anticipates future challenges. Quoting the Quranic verse, “We have created man in the best of forms” (Surah At-Tin), Barrister Dr. Saif elaborated on the unique human capacity for consciousness, intellect, and moral discernment. He explained that this divine gift distinguishes humans from other creatures and underscores the importance of nurturing a child’s ability to differentiate between right and wrong. “This consciousness is the pinnacle of taqwa, enabling individuals to reject harmful influences,” he said.
Barrister Dr. Saif also addressed the societal roots of extremism, linking it to frustration and deprivation. He argued that individuals raised in environments lacking social cohesion or collective values are more susceptible to radicalization. “Frustration arises when individuals feel isolated. Parenting that fosters a collective consciousness and moral strength can counter these tendencies,” he noted.In a poignant reference to Islamic teachings, Dr. Saif cited a hadith of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), which states that a person’s legacy endures through three means i.e. ongoing charity (sadaqa jariya), beneficial knowledge, and righteous offspring who pray for their parents. He emphasized that such a legacy is only possible through parenting that transcends material needs and instills ethical, spiritual, and intellectual strength.
Barrister Dr. Saif concluded by contrasting human consciousness with instinct-driven behavior, noting that humans, unlike animals, have the capacity for metaphysical reflection and societal contribution. He warned against raising “human-like animals” driven solely by self-interest, advocating instead for parenting that cultivates a collective mindset. “Societies that prioritize collective welfare over individualism thrive, while those that fragment into self-interest decline,” he observed.
Barrister Dr. Saif congratulated the organizers for addressing a profoundly important topic. The workshop, attended by psychologists, educators, and community leaders, was lauded for its focus on a topic vital to societal progress.